Get your juju on!

Get your juju on
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on March 21, 2017
 

This is my juju bag full of stones and small trinkets of significance.

I hit my limit.

During a terminal workplace meeting, I needed a grounding reminder of what mattered to me.

I extracted a small cloth sack from my purse and dumped the contents into my palm:  a pebble of rose quartz, a baby amethyst, a thin shaving of kyanite, a tiny statue of Shiva, a miniature bear from Berlin, a fortune cookie message “Love conquers all,” pressed dandelions from Martin Luther King’s birthplace and a broken piece of pottery my mother supercharged on Machu Picchu.

A coworker leaned in and, with a conspiratorial whisper, asked, “What is that?”

“It’s my juju bag,” I said, staring at the treasures in my palm. Continue reading

Yes, you CAN be overinvolved in your own life

You’re overinvolved in your life
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on March 21, 2017 

There are two of You – You1 and You2.

You2 acts, interacts and reacts.  You1, your genuine self, manages You2.

Socrates said, “Be as you wish to seem,” and this supports the double-You perspective.  Two Yous: one the creator and one the creation, your authentic self vs. your persona.

You2 is the wild child.  You2, immersed in the stuff of world, is led by human senses and the attraction and repulsion of likes and dislikes.  Continue reading

When people get on your nerves

When people get on your nerves
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press March 14, 2017

People get on your nerves when you’re chasing your tail.

Such busyness is when activity and movement consume your life.  You’re flying places, driving places, running places. It’s task, task, task instead of purpose, purpose, purpose.

That’s when people get on your last nerve, even people you like.  You want to slap your hands over your ears because their voices are nails on a chalkboard, and meetings resemble a convention of squawking chickens.  People bump you in stores or hallways, and you want to push back.  Your patience has disappeared in check-out lines and while waiting for return phone calls. And, of course, you gift other drivers with your verbal wrath. Continue reading

Tokyo Marathon: a test of my yogic self

Tokyo Marathon: a test of my yogic self
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on March 7, 2017

The Tokyo Marathon start line.

Ready or not, do or do not.  There is no try.

I tried to remember this during my meltdown two nights before the Tokyo Marathon.

Tokyo doesn’t play.  If I wasn’t over the 10K marker by a certain time, race officials would be blocking the road, and all stragglers would be disqualified.

That wasn’t a big worry until I found out I would be in the last corral.  With 35,000 runners in front of me, it could take me 30 minutes just to get to the start.

I hadn’t trained for the pace I needed, so I started to sweat.     Continue reading

How to dump people: Don’t!

Four steps when dumping people
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on February 28, 2017

Step One:  Be selective.

How do you know when to end any relationship?

Not everyone whether friend, family or lover is going to be a partner on your evolutionary journey.  Not everyone is going to see your worth. That’s okay.

There are reasons to show someone the door.

Ask: Is this person sabotaging my journey with excessive, self serving, hypocritical and non-constructive criticism? Is this person toxic, dishonest, controlling, abusive, belittling or parasitic? Continue reading

Five understandings to cope with a liar

Five understandings to cope with a liar
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on February 21, 2017

If you want to spot a liar, don’t think those online articles are going to help you.

A few Facebook tips for snagging pesky narcissists won’t snare every snake who slithers into your garden.

Ordinary people are bad at detecting lies. According to a report published in the Personality and Social Psychology Review synthesizing available research on lie detection, we spot just above 50% of lies thrown at us. Yes, that’s a coin toss.

No, you weren’t stupid when you got duped. Some liars are crafty. There is a difference between smart and devious. Bigly. Continue reading

A five-day program to live with integrity

A five-day program to live with integrity
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on February 8, 2017

Most people live with integrity, love the world and try to be as honest as possible.

This statement requires a qualification: We do so as long as the conditions are right.

So noted Dan Ariely in his terrific book “The (Honest) Truth about Dishonesty.” Ordinary people, if opportunity knocks, will be dishonest and cut corners, even if they perceive themselves as authentic and decent.  Continue reading

Menstrual cycle kits empower women around the world

Menstrual cycle kits empower women around the world
by Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on January 31, 2017

Tina Noel works with GRACE Project and the Unitarian Universalist Church in Fort Myers to produce hundreds of cycle kits.

It’s about the pads and tampons, the stuff women need when the blood comes out of their “wherevers.”

But not everyone has access to feminine hygiene supplies, and this is not a trifle.

It’s simple: Without hygiene products women can’t go to work or stay in school.  Days for Girls, an international non-profit, is dedicated to providing women around the world with the supplies they need.

Given women menstruate about two months out of a year, this project is part of a larger mission to address poverty, hunger, education, gender equality, economic growth and sustainable communities. Continue reading

Know Thyself through crystals

Know Thyself through crystals
by Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on January 24, 2017

Nancy Loughlin’s crystal meditation table…

Shimmering beauties surrounded me, and a decision was impossible.

Quartz, Selenite, Obsidian piled on tables in a dazzling color spectacle at Infinite Stones, Fort Myers.  My intention was to find the right piece of Smoky Quartz because, during a recent sound healing session, the visuals got surreal when the musician pressed a piece to my feet.  Which stone was right for me?

“Here is how you decide,” said associate Lisa Claiborne.  I should hold the stone in my hands, she said. If I rock forward, I need it.  If I rock back, my body says no.

I eyed her suspiciously as my first choice shifted my weight to the balls of my feet.  The second stone almost dropped me on my back.

Lisa smiled, “They communicate, don’t they?” Continue reading

Stepping out after a knee replacement

Stepping out after knee replacement surgery
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on January 10, 2017

After his knee replacement surgery, doctors and nurses called Gary Granza “Yoga Guy.”

Medical professionals huddled in his hospital room doorway and watched the Bonita Springs yoga teacher move into a full forward fold on the bed only hours after they replaced his right knee. The very first day (granted he was on pain blockers) he stood on one leg while holding the walker.

Gary laughs as he recalls the wide-eyed amazement as they said, “No one has ever done that before.”

He credits his yoga practice for carrying him through the ten years of pain before the surgery as well as his relatively swift recovery.  Immediately after the surgery, as he was weaned off the medication, he noted discomfort yes, but pain, no.

“It was just another signal my brain had to deal with,” he said. Continue reading