The first date handwriting snapshot
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on September 27, 2016
The next time you have a first date, slide a sheet of unlined paper across the table.
“Would you mind writing, in cursive, ‘Dear Dad, I would like to go out with you for dinner and ice cream,’ and sign it with your signature?”
Then, excuse yourself to the bathroom and analyze the handwriting. Your date will be patient while you decide whether to return to the table or run for the door.
Reverend Crystal Childs, a professional graphologist, suggests this sentence can offer a basic snapshot of basic personality traits, at least for right now.
“Handwriting is what you consciously think, yet it is driven by unconscious forces,” Reverend Childs said.
“Of course, don’t dismiss someone right away based on a single sentence, whether a new friend or a potential lover,” she said. “But it’s good to have as much information as possible before you begin any kind of relationship.”
Reverend Childs suggests looking at the following categories for some basic scoop:
- Look at the margins.
If the left margin is the biggest, these writers take care of their own needs, potentially putting themselves first at another’s expense.
If the right margin is bigger than the left, this person cares what others think. This person is generous, compromising and potentially self-sacrificing.
If there is no margin at all, this is someone who can crowd others and perhaps take on too much work.
2. Look at the slant.
The more the handwriting slants either to the left or the right, the more emotional the writer tends to be. If it slants to the left, the writer is introverted, and, if it slants to the right, the writer tends to be extroverted.
4. Check out the lower-case t’s.
If the t is crossed midway, all the way through the stem, the writer has a normal confidence and self-esteem. The writer is balanced and attentive to detail.
If the t is crossed high, above the stem, the writer has fantastical thinking and an active imagination, for better or worse. This person may be unrealistic.
If the cross is to the right of the stem, the writer can be hasty and impatient with decisions.
If the cross is to the left, the writer might be a procrastinator and slow with decision making.
5. How is the honesty?
Begin looking at the lower-case a, o and g. The more broken the circles, the less honest this person is.
If the capital D is closed at the top, you can likely trust this person with secrets, and this person won’t kiss and tell. If the D is broken, watch the sharing.
Dishonesty also shows in misplaced periods and skipped letters.
6. How does the writer dot the lower-case i?
The i dot is attention to detail. The higher the dot, the greater the imagination, perhaps signaling insecurity and false confidence.
If the dot is to the right, the writer is impatient. If it’s to the left, the writer procrastinates.
Notice if the i is topped with a straight line instead of a dot. A line indicates a critical nature. If the line is to the left, the writer is critical of self. If it’s to the right, the writer is critical of others.
7. Examine the signature.
If the signature is just a first name, there could be an overblown ego.
If it’s just the last name, group belonging is important to the writer.
If the signature has a full first and last name with a middle initial, this person tends to be conformist.
If it’s the full first and last name, the writer is comfortable with his or her individuality.
With a first initial, middle initial and a full last name, this writer gets to the point and can be introverted and impatient.
With a first initial and full last name, this person is shy and tries to blend in.
A first initial, full middle name and full last name indicates the writer likes to attract attention.
Finally, a full first name, middle name and last name is for a writer who likes public speaking and a lot of attention.
8. So how sexy is the writer?
Look at the lower-case y. If the bottom loop is low and dangles, sex is a big deal to this writer. Physical contact matters to this person who is high intensity and willing to please. But if the loop is oversized, the writer might be compensating for poor performance.
If the y tail is short or straight, sex may not matter to this person who could be conservative, non-experimental and perhaps frigid at the extreme.
Reverend Childs stresses that graphologists prefer to have multiple samples of at least a full paragraph to do an adequate analysis. Graphology can be complicated, and there is so much interplay of the personality clues.
Remember, she urges, this sentence is a snapshot of the writer at the moment the text was written. And just because the writer’s style is different from yours doesn’t mean you’re not a good match.
“You might be a perfect balance, particularly with opposite y’s. Be flexible,” Childs said. “And get more samples.”