Monthly Archives: February 2017

How to dump people: Don’t!

Four steps when dumping people
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on February 28, 2017

Step One:  Be selective.

How do you know when to end any relationship?

Not everyone whether friend, family or lover is going to be a partner on your evolutionary journey.  Not everyone is going to see your worth. That’s okay.

There are reasons to show someone the door.

Ask: Is this person sabotaging my journey with excessive, self serving, hypocritical and non-constructive criticism? Is this person toxic, dishonest, controlling, abusive, belittling or parasitic? Continue reading

Five understandings to cope with a liar

Five understandings to cope with a liar
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on February 21, 2017

If you want to spot a liar, don’t think those online articles are going to help you.

A few Facebook tips for snagging pesky narcissists won’t snare every snake who slithers into your garden.

Ordinary people are bad at detecting lies. According to a report published in the Personality and Social Psychology Review synthesizing available research on lie detection, we spot just above 50% of lies thrown at us. Yes, that’s a coin toss.

No, you weren’t stupid when you got duped. Some liars are crafty. There is a difference between smart and devious. Bigly. Continue reading

A five-day program to live with integrity

A five-day program to live with integrity
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on February 8, 2017

Most people live with integrity, love the world and try to be as honest as possible.

This statement requires a qualification: We do so as long as the conditions are right.

So noted Dan Ariely in his terrific book “The (Honest) Truth about Dishonesty.” Ordinary people, if opportunity knocks, will be dishonest and cut corners, even if they perceive themselves as authentic and decent.  Continue reading