Monthly Archives: July 2016

Know Thyself: What is adventure?

Know Thyself:  What is adventure?
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on July 26, 2016
 

The adventurous life involves risk, exploration and living the extraordinary.

But are you an adrenaline junkie?  Do you mainline dangers like a drug?

Thrill-seeking, particularly the endless pursuit of physical challenges such as skydiving, mountaineering, and ultra-marathoning, does not create an adventurous life.

It’s a desperate quest to alleviate agitation. Continue reading

Everyone has a past, dealing with shame

Dealing with Shame
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on July 19, 2016

Everyone has a past.

Shame can be part of the package.

It may have been something you said, you wrote, you wore, you did or you thought.  It may have been ten years ago or yesterday.  Yet, when you recall the memory today, your cheeks still burn, and you dread the day someone who means you harm hauls the event out of the closet for public inspection.

A friend calls shame-inducing life events “rotting, stinking corpses,” and we all have them.

When shamed, we feel worthless as human beings, damaged.  Continue reading

Reflections on fighting for freedom

Reflections on fighting for freedom
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on July 12, 2016
 

freedomOur quests for “freedom” are bondage.

Battles over our guns, abortion rights, health care, imbibing our drugs of choice and marrying whom we choose can be noble causes, yet they are all small potatoes.

As our social media newsfeeds populate with pro-Our Side memes and we slap bumper stickers on our cars and argue to the death with those who disagree, we’re drowning in the attachment to external freedom.

Freedom fighting is not fueled by anger, rage, resentment, revenge, our own private baggage, violence, force, or the selfish desire to create a world conforming to our personal tastes. (Someone once said to me, “Wouldn’t it be great to blow up the world and start over?”) Continue reading

Five ways to combat survival mode

Five ways to combat survival mode
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on July 5, 2016

You’re just trying to survive, and that’s no way to live.

You know when you are in survival mode.  You fear losing your job.  You fear for the physical health and safety of you and your family and your community.  You fear the destruction of the planet.

Or perhaps you don’t know.  Survival mode skews your filters so strangers, new ideas and change all become threats to be battled and destroyed – or to bomb, ban or blockade.

Fear is in our political discourse, our jobs and our homes.  On the global, professional and personal levels, we become highly reactive instead of patient, reasonable and thoughtful.  We are quick to assign blame to anyone rather than accept communal responsibility.  We refuse to take chances on new, daring ideas.  Continue reading