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How to sacrifice… when you really don’t want to sacrifice

The flow of sacrifice
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on April 25, 2017

I was running my mouth about the same person.  Again.

Reiki master Shakti Barnhill looked at me. Again.  Her patience was dwindling.  Again.

“You’re talking about this person.  Again,” she said.

I was.  Again.

Exasperated Shakti held up her hands and said, “Let’s set a time limit.”

After some negotiation, I decided I would stop again-ing by Easter weekend.

This was going to be tough. I liked making myself miserable talking about this person, endlessly dissecting every email and flippant comment.  I knew talking about this person was just some of my crap, and I, like everyone else, like my crap’s familiar terrain. Continue reading

Do-it-yourself reflexology

DIY reflexology
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on April 18, 2017

Lynda works the feet with myofascial release.

There is something blissful about a foot massage.

Devotees call it “foot work.”

There is evidence of foot reflexology being practiced long ago in ancient Egypt and China, the theory being different parts of the foot correspond to different parts of the body. Applying pressure to these foot points can alleviate distress in the body, both physical and energetic.

According to Lynda Artesani, yoga teacher with Joyful Yoga, Bonita Springs, the foundation of your body is your feet as it is where you connect to the earth. What happens in your feet travels all the way up the body, and the alignment or position of your feet will have an effect on your knees, hips, low back and overall health.

“Think train tracks; that is the alignment you want to go for,” Artesani said. Continue reading

Yoga for asthma relief

Yoga for asthma relief
by Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on April 11, 2017

For about 25 million American asthmatics, the breath can be the enemy.

According to Dr. Charles V. Klucka, an allergy and asthma specialist based in SW Florida, asthma is a chronic, obstructive airway disease.

An asthma attack’s possible triggers are plentiful and vary significantly from individual to individual.  The cause can be allergic (i.e., cat or dust allergies) or non-allergic due to viral infections or, for some people, exercise.

Traditional treatments include medications, allergy injections, and avoidance of common triggers.  But even these measures won’t eliminate attacks completely.

Asthma attacks are frightening.  Peggy Phillips, life-long asthma sufferer in SW Florida, described how harrowing an attack can be: “It’s as if someone is tightening a belt around my chest.  It keeps getting tighter and tighter, and that, of course, elicits fear and makes the attack worse.  To say that I’m gasping is inadequate. I become simply desperate for breath. Desperate is the word.”

“I have to slow down and remind myself that the anxiety and terror aren’t real, and they will just exacerbate the attack.  My mind has to take over,” she said.

This is yoga. Continue reading

Combat the slouch, enhance spiritual evolution

Learn from the slouch
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on April 4, 2017

Sandy and Tristin, two South Fort Myers High yogis, demonstrate a steady seat. Sandy has tight hips, and her knees pop. Tristin is flush to the floor.

 Hit the floor and sit cross-legged.

Are your knees flush to the floor and your spine straight?  Or, do your knees pop off the floor causing you to slouch?

If your knees are floating, your hips are tight. Overuse can tighten the hip flexors and glutes, but so can marinating in a chair for hours each day.

Yes, flexible and stable hips are key for athletic performance.  They can also avert knee and lower back pain.

But, what’s even more important is how tight hips throw the entire body out of alignment and impede spiritual development.  Continue reading

Get your juju on!

Get your juju on
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on March 21, 2017

This is my juju bag full of stones and small trinkets of significance.

I hit my limit.

During a terminal workplace meeting, I needed a grounding reminder of what mattered to me.

I extracted a small cloth sack from my purse and dumped the contents into my palm:  a pebble of rose quartz, a baby amethyst, a thin shaving of kyanite, a tiny statue of Shiva, a miniature bear from Berlin, a fortune cookie message “Love conquers all,” pressed dandelions from Martin Luther King’s birthplace and a broken piece of pottery my mother supercharged on Machu Picchu.

A coworker leaned in and, with a conspiratorial whisper, asked, “What is that?”

“It’s my juju bag,” I said, staring at the treasures in my palm. Continue reading

Yes, you CAN be overinvolved in your own life

You’re overinvolved in your life
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on March 21, 2017 

There are two of You – You1 and You2.

You2 acts, interacts and reacts.  You1, your genuine self, manages You2.

Socrates said, “Be as you wish to seem,” and this supports the double-You perspective.  Two Yous: one the creator and one the creation, your authentic self vs. your persona.

You2 is the wild child.  You2, immersed in the stuff of world, is led by human senses and the attraction and repulsion of likes and dislikes.  Continue reading

When people get on your nerves

When people get on your nerves
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press March 14, 2017

People get on your nerves when you’re chasing your tail.

Such busyness is when activity and movement consume your life.  You’re flying places, driving places, running places. It’s task, task, task instead of purpose, purpose, purpose.

That’s when people get on your last nerve, even people you like.  You want to slap your hands over your ears because their voices are nails on a chalkboard, and meetings resemble a convention of squawking chickens.  People bump you in stores or hallways, and you want to push back.  Your patience has disappeared in check-out lines and while waiting for return phone calls. And, of course, you gift other drivers with your verbal wrath. Continue reading

Tokyo Marathon: a test of my yogic self

Tokyo Marathon: a test of my yogic self
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on March 7, 2017

The Tokyo Marathon start line.

Ready or not, do or do not.  There is no try.

I tried to remember this during my meltdown two nights before the Tokyo Marathon.

Tokyo doesn’t play.  If I wasn’t over the 10K marker by a certain time, race officials would be blocking the road, and all stragglers would be disqualified.

That wasn’t a big worry until I found out I would be in the last corral.  With 35,000 runners in front of me, it could take me 30 minutes just to get to the start.

I hadn’t trained for the pace I needed, so I started to sweat.     Continue reading

How to dump people: Don’t!

Four steps when dumping people
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on February 28, 2017

Step One:  Be selective.

How do you know when to end any relationship?

Not everyone whether friend, family or lover is going to be a partner on your evolutionary journey.  Not everyone is going to see your worth. That’s okay.

There are reasons to show someone the door.

Ask: Is this person sabotaging my journey with excessive, self serving, hypocritical and non-constructive criticism? Is this person toxic, dishonest, controlling, abusive, belittling or parasitic? Continue reading

Five understandings to cope with a liar

Five understandings to cope with a liar
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on February 21, 2017

If you want to spot a liar, don’t think those online articles are going to help you.

A few Facebook tips for snagging pesky narcissists won’t snare every snake who slithers into your garden.

Ordinary people are bad at detecting lies. According to a report published in the Personality and Social Psychology Review synthesizing available research on lie detection, we spot just above 50% of lies thrown at us. Yes, that’s a coin toss.

No, you weren’t stupid when you got duped. Some liars are crafty. There is a difference between smart and devious. Bigly. Continue reading