Monthly Archives: October 2016

Twenty tips for letting go

Twenty tips for letting go
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on October 31, 2016

If I’m angry, it’s not advisable for anyone to say,” Just let it go.”

I’ll let go when I’m ready even though I’m always ready.

The challenge is how.

Twenty Tips for Letting Go

  1.  Pivot.

While my baggage screams, I amplify other areas of my life such as volunteerism, artistic endeavors, educational goals, a new sport or exercise program.

The new noise will drown out the old.

2. Make amends.

If I’m holding shame, I contact the person (people) I harmed.  I ask for forgiveness.

If this is impossible without causing more harm to myself or others, I make a “living amends” and vow to never engage in that behavior again.

3. Burn a bridge.

I write to the person who harmed me and state my case.  I don’t always mail it or press send, but sometimes I do. What difference does it make?

4.  Reframe.

I separate a piece of paper into two columns.  On the left, I list all my personality flaws, ghosts and mistakes trapping me in myself.  Then, in the right column, I turn every negative into a positive. Continue reading

Preserving election sanity and learning humility with Child’s Pose

Preserving election sanity and learning humility with child’s pose
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on 
October 24, 2017

I have something in common with the presidential candidates.

There’s dirt in my past.

I recently sat with a legal pad, and I created a loathsome list of things I’ve said and done which I’d never want to see the light of day. I included childish tantrums, insensitive utterances stemming from ignorance and bad behavior during heightened emotional states.  Although there was nothing illegal, this generic bad behavior would be embarrassing to explain on a campaign trail.

By the time I got to the middle of the second page, I stopped the scary paper trail.

There was a reason I did this.

The Lesson Continue reading

Loosen the emotional and physical “grip”

Loosen the emotional and physical “grip”
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on October 11, 2016

It’s a different kind of tension.  Fort Myers Yoga Bird teacher Anna Withrow calls it The Grip.

Withrow credits yogi Shari Friedrichsen for introducing her to the concept of the grip.

“The grip strikes where we’ve decided not to let energy flow.  The grip is a means of self-protection,” Withrow said.

The grip manifests itself energetically, psychologically and physically.  We grip our pasts, our anxieties and our stories.  The grip latches on to our lives, our minds and our bodies.

In order to thrive, we have to loosen the grip. Continue reading

Taming the houseguest from hell

Taming the “houseguest” from hell
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on October 4, 2016

Imagine the houseguest from hell.

This person follows you room to room, pointing out your flaws, reminding you of every stupid thing you’ve ever done.  Every time you try to accomplish anything, the houseguest throws a monkey wrench into your whole program by telling you all your efforts will come to naught, sabotaging you.  Just policing this houseguest as he knocks over all your furniture drains your energy, your will and your spirit.

Of course you’d kick him into the street.

If you won’t entertain a poison pill in your house, why do you tolerate him in your head? An eviction is in order. Continue reading