Monthly Archives: March 2015

Do you have to be perfect to be enlightened?

Do you have to be perfect to be enlightened?
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on March 31, 2015

Psychologist Abraham Maslow called them “peak experiences.”

These are defining moments for people who are self-actualized.  They feel flashes of overwhelming beauty and truth. They are far from alienated and a part of a whole that’s imbued with love and harmony. They are one with self, and self is all.

They know who they are, why they’re here and where they’re going.

I’m screwed.

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The healing dream team

My pain and the healing dream team
by Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on March 24, 2015

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I have always been physically fearless.

I was the kid leaping out of trees, hanging upside down from monkey bars, jumping off swings, speeding down hills on bicycles. Bruises always dusted my legs and arms.

At the end of January, I was diagnosed with a deep vein thrombosis, a blood clot, along with a pulmonary embolism.  I will be taking blood thinners for the rest of my life, and bleeding will always be a worry.

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Understanding pain… and thriving

Understanding chronic pain, and thriving
by Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on March 24, 2015

Pain is a complex and troublesome human experience, as difficult to understand and explain as love.

For Neil Pearson, this definition of pain resonates most.

In fact, when working with chronic pain sufferers, he asks them to complete this sentence in multiple ways:  Pain is ____.

“Understanding pain from as many points of view is an important task for people in pain. We can understand its complexity so much more if we start completing this sentence with as many options as possible,” Pearson said in an interview.

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The Sex Talk the Tantric Way

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Jamie Shane

Talking Sex with Kids:  Useful Tips from a Tantric Perspective
by Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in YogaUOnline on March 19, 2015


Jamie Shane, Tantric yoga teacher based in Naples, Florida, wants her young daughter to have terrific sex.

When she’s old enough, of course.

The problem is, Shane said, parents spend too much time talking about the “don’ts.” Don’t get pregnant. Don’t get an STD. And don’t unless you love a person.

“When we frame these conversations in the ‘don’t perspective,’ we’re creating fear as well as an enticement to experiment in our children,” Shane said.

“Then we lose our power as parents,” she said.

Instead, Shane suggests, have the conversation from a supportive, intelligent and enlightening perspective.

“I understand my daughter is eventually going to have sex, and I want her to do it well, healthfully and lovingly,” Shane said.

But how do you talk about it? Here’s a frank Q&A with Jamie Shane:

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Relax with a guided meditation

That place between wakefulness and sleep
By Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on March 10, 2015

You may have experienced something like “that place” before. 

Perhaps you were floating in a raft in the Gulf of Mexico.  Or maybe you were staring at a fire pit, hypnotized by the flames.  It often happens on the massage therapist’s table.

It’s that drift of deep relaxation just outside sleep’s boundaries.

According to Patanjali’s Eight Limbs, after we learn how to control our senses (the Desire Makers), we are able to focus.  That focus will lead to a state of relaxation, “that place,” a peaceful mental neighborhood.  It’s the place of healing.

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