Monthly Archives: September 2014

The Yoga of Dating

The yoga of dating
by Nancy B. Loughlin
Published by News Press on September 30, 2014

A friend told me that the best relationship is between two people who are deaf and blind.

If you look at someone long and hard and listen to every word, you’ll eventually detect things you don’t like.

And, in romantic relationships, that’s what we often do. We analyze and dissect. Who could stand up to that kind of daily scrutiny?

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Top Four Mundane Fixations

Fixing the top four fixations
by Nancy B. Loughlin
Published in News Press on September 23, 2014.  Posted with permission.

How much time do you spend thinking about the top four BS fixations?

What am I going to eat? I’m cold (hot). What do people think of me? This is what I should have said!

How can minutiae steal so much energy?

According to the Vedanta, there are three kinds of minds. The restless mind is the most self-absorbed and is only concerned with satisfying selfish, immediate needs. If you have a restless mind, the interests of other beings do not register. You talk on your cell phone in the library. You tell people to get out of your way. You unload 30 items on the supermarket express lane. You tailgate.

Given that the world is not structured to serve your needs alone, you live in perpetual frustration and antagonize others while they antagonize you. The restless mind is the one most likely to fixate.

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For peace, begin with 108 Sun Salutations

For peace, begin with 108 sun salutations
by Nancy B. Loughlin
(Published in News Press, September 16, 2014)

Here’s the problem with working toward world peace. It has nothing to do with the world.

It’s easy to point to politicians, criminals, nations, organizations, terrorists and assorted boogiemen, those who hurl bombs, fists, threats and hatred, and declare Them as The Problem. Eliminate Them; eliminate The Problem.

In this world, each of us is a Them. We start by looking in the mirror. Then we’ll see Them.

They are agitated.

No matter what They do, no matter what They get, no matter how hard They work, They can’t seem to shake this feeling of it not being enough.

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Meditations: Is it possible to do no harm?

Meditations: Is it possible to do no harm?
by Nancy B. Loughlin
Published by News Press on September 9, 2014.  Posted with permission.

A yoga friend told me about his beloved teacher. This teacher’s motto for living is après vous, putting others first.

Sounds good, I thought.

My friend told me how his teacher would sit in traffic and allow drivers in other lanes to get in front of him.

“Après vous.”

The teacher smiles while car after car advances. He sings, and drivers behind him sit on their horns.

“Wait,” I interrupt the story. “What about the people behind him?”

Dramatic pause.


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